I personally do not think there is such thing as "sequin season" because life is sucky enough without denying yourself the pleasure of glow-in-the-dark clothing because it's not quote unquote the right season. Yes, I spelled that out on purpose. Nevertheless, it's fun for me when everyone is wearing sequins (albeit distracting, I do have a tendency to get distracted by sparkly things.)

I'll be the first to admit that this year has been hard. I've been cut open and then sewn back together again. Twice. I need joy in my life. Joy in the form of sparkly clothing. Joy in the fit of my current favorite moto jacket. Joy in the tiny everyday things that we sometimes take for granted. Rant over.

Lucy Paris Sparkly Dress | Gold Box Clutch sim | Vegan Moto Jacket sim | Illesteva Palm Beach Sunglasses

First of all, I still wear clothes. Still love them too. But especially snuggly clothes. I have a serious addiction to soft clothing.

It was so bad when I was a kid my mom had to sew me special clothes. If I deemed something "too scratchy" I would rip it violently from my body - regardless of our location, public or otherwise. My mom calls me "puha " (pronounced peu  jshah) which means "soft" in Hungarian. I still shop by running my hands along the racks and shelves. I have been known to buy things just because of their desirable texture. I own too many blankets.

Which is why I love this jacket - it feels like being hugged by a cloud. It's warm. It's a little short on me (story of my life) but for whatever reason it still works. The collar is 100 emoji. It also works really well as a layering piece under coats/puffer jackets (see previous sentence about collar or this outfit)

Amuse Society Stringer Jacket
One of my new year's resolutions is continue working on my gratitude - instead of thinking about what I don't have, can't do, won't be... I'm going to focus on all the amazing blessings I do have in my life. I am going to be a fan of myself....



1) Custom Iron on Letters (you can ask them for the ones they made for Dena if you want to match the font!)
2) Sweatshirt (I used a vintage one, but this soft Alternative Apparel Eco Fleece one would also work)
3) Iron (I like a nonstick plate like this one just for crafting, it's only $14)


Make sure the sweatshirt is clean and dry. Follow the detailed instructions provided by the custom letters you order. That's it!


One of my new family's favorite traditions. 

I woke up early last one Xmas morning and, having freshly watched The Holiday, decided to construct a surprise fort while my husband and puppy slept. 

It just gets better and better every year! Behold, this years masterpiece. 

You may have noticed in yesterday's post that I referenced DIY "coconut oil" stocking stuffers. I decided to take that one step further by adding in some peppermint oil. In addition to being "seasonal" I love the health benefits of a few drops of the potent oil.

Peppermint oil is:

a natural painkiller and muscle relaxant
a natural energizer
provides sinus and congestion relief when smelled 
can help with nausea and upset stomach when smelled or ingested
acts as a natural bug repellant
and has antimacrobial properties

Coconut oil also has anti-microbial properties, in addition to being a skin softener and helping to retain moisture.

Together, this potent little balm can help with a wide variety of seasonal (and no so seasonal) ailments making it a perfect little DIY gift for people you love.

Follow these easy steps, and even if you can't order them on amazon - there's still time to grab what you need from your local whole foods, costco, or even grocery store.

You'll need:
Coconut oil (enough to almost fill your container)
Peppermint oil (just a few drops per every 4 ounces, this stuff is potent)
a kitchen spoon
Glass Containers with lids
a pot with enough water in it to cover the bottle about half way up

to decorate:
String (optional)
Craft paper (I used paper lunch bags) (optional)
Stamps or pens (optional)


Candy Cane Balm
1) Spoon the coconut oil into the container using the spoon, it should be solid at room temperature so press it down gently, like brown sugar.
2) Add a few drops of peppermint oil
3) Place the lids on the containers (I used glass jars) and then place them in the pot with the water.
4) Heat the water to boil, keeping a close eye on it. The oil inside will melt until it's clear. If there's a few solid spots in the middle, don't worry they'll melt when you leave them out to sit.
5) Remove from heat and place them on a cool flat service. Give it a twirl to mix the peppermint oil into the coconut oil.
6) As it returns to room temperature the balm will solidify again. 

1) Use the lid to make a circle on the paper by pressing down. Decorate within the circle using pens, markers, stamps whatever. I used this love & hugs stamp with gold ink from my local craft store.
2) Press the paper around the top and determine how long you want it to extend down from the top. Make a small cut. 
3) Follow that cut till you have a somewhat circle (don't worry about making it perfect!)
4) Place it over the top of the jar and press down. Secure with a string.
5) Make a small card with the ingredients and directions, attach it by threading it through the string before tying. 

To use, warm the balm between your fingers to return it to an oil consistency, then apply liberally as needed! 

Surprise & Delight with gifts that look like they took a long time (thoughtfully curated, assembled and loving) but that you actually threw together last minute. Don't worry I wont tell...

Best One Shot Deals that Seem Like a Lot: 

Most Bang for Your Buck: 

TONYMOLY Mask Kit $14 (normally $85)


RMS Beauty Organic Contour Kit 
because fun can also be organic

Strobing Kit
Glowing inside and out


packaging so pretty it doesn't need to be wrapped

James Read Sleep Tan Mask | Sleep Mask Body | Clear Bronzing Mist 

Coconut Oil DIY 
because coconut oil fixes everything but the packaging usually sucks...

photo from H is for Love

Coconut Oil | Clear Glass Jars with Lids | Kraft Paper Stickers Pen  (or get fancy & print them out) - I would steal the heck out of this amazing design from H is for Love 

because everyone looks better in candlelight

Suggested Use, courtesy of Style Me Pretty Vault

Tealights |  Tiny Glass Jars : total price $40

Follow along with my logic -

1) Exfoliating clay masks work by drawing impurities out of your skin (and into themselves).

2) Clarisonic brushes are a jillion scientific percentage whatevers more effective at cleaning dirt/makeup/impurities off your skin than face wash alone.

Ergo: If you use your Clarisonic brush to remove your exfoliating mask you will get that gunk out and away more effectively.

So far, the result has been AMAZING. Who knew? Did someone else know? Am I the last one to hear about this? If you try it, let me know...

Glossier's Cult Favorite Green Galaxy Exfoliating Mask (use this link to get 10% off) | Clarisonic Limited Edition Keith Haring Set | Clarisonic Brush Head  in "Radiance" | Turkish Towel

Read my list: Five Ways to Use an Exfoliating Mask (when you have dry skin and are scared of them)

because I'm obsessed with it...

Faux Fur Coat | white tee | bucket bag sim | Prada Sunglasses
I'm not in the mood to write words about this outfit. I'm lying in bed. I'm not feeling so hot, and I'm watching 10 things I hate about you on HBO Go, which holds up incredibly well. I'm wearing the same uber soft striped reformation shirt I already wore twice last week. I look at these pictures of myself and it feels like I'm looking at someone else. But that, in and of itself, is the power and magic of fashion. You can dress yourself to be whomever you want to be. It's my armor. It's magic and childhood dress up and good memories and and and... I like the me I see in this outfit. Sexy, confident, sleek, color-coordinated, comfortable (I swear!) The me that exists right now is hiding under the covers but there's another me out there and she is something else entirely.

Lovers & Friends LA Shimmy Dress | Stuart Weitzman Lowland Boots | Amuse Society Stringer Jacket | Prada Sunglasses | Black Clutch with Details sim 

Star Wars fur, yeah I'm rockin' Chewbacca.

Faux Fur Coat | Shiny Tank | Vintage Levis | Ringly Wearable Tech | Rose Gold Frends | Illesteva Sunglasses

I love the idea of a pink coat. In the grey, dreary, frosty sea of winter, a pink coat is like a pair of fuzzy slippers - warm, cozy and fun. But love, and knowing how to wear something without looking like a circus clown, are two completely different and distinct things.

For years I relegated my beloved pink coat to special occasions, throwing it over cocktail dresses in shades of black and cream. But as it's gotten colder this year I've started working it into more everyday outfits.

Here's how I like to think I make it work:

1) Add another pop of pink somewhere else. Here it's the shoes, yes these shoes I wrote about in my first R29 article, but I employ this tactic a lot. Total child of the 90's move, (Remember when my scrunchie had to match my leotard and my leg warmers? What about when my puffy had to match the laces on my sneakers?)

2) Can't go wrong pairing the pink with black, white or grey. It makes the coat stand out and also helps to keep things more casual.

3) A little boyish accent will pair perfectly with the girliness of the pink. I'm not trying to look like Hello Kitty, so this sports beanie helps take it down a notch.

Get your own pink coats: Persimmon Collarless Cocoon Coat (on sale!) | Hooded Wrap Pink Coat

Shown With:  City Poof Beanie | Red Lipstick | The Reformation Striped Tee (get it before it sells out) | Levi's 311 Shaping Skinny Jeans in Black | Heeled Sneakers (this DOPE pair is white with rose gold and totally on my wishlist!)